Such a good question. It points to the inner work calling out to be done; & it’s always inner work. We have infinite perspectives as lenses through which to view. No one can even define the self, so we’re mostly all over the map. What Heart takes to be fine, to be done, mind doesn’t see that way — because it can’t.
Our release from suffering, (though not from pain,) is found via Heart, mind being the wrong tool for the awakening job — IMO, of course. 😆 Anytime we’re really hurting, it’s arising from our beliefs. That leaves us in charge, able to reexamine the basis of the pain. Someone is not living up to OUR set of beliefs — nor should they have to. They, too, get to choose.
Wishing you well on your journey. It’s so exciting to see more & more of us awakening all around the world. What a great, albeit crazy time in which to live.
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