Can You Laugh at Yourself?
We Aren’t Funny to Our Mind
Are you able to laugh at yourself, yet? It’s a good sign when you are, & hopefully the clear laughter, not the feeling-a-bit-guilty-or-embarrassed kind. What benefit does self-directed laughter hold? If you don’t know, then you have something great to look forward to.
We even call it “good-hearted laughter.” 😆
Mind-centric people don’t laugh at themselves often, & when they do, it’s uncomfortable, both for them & for observers. It’s just awkward. We’re too much in the ego-mind which just doesn’t think it’s funny.
It’s not until our arrival in Heart, our experience of this other way or mode of being, that we loosen up sufficiently to really enjoy a good, sincere laugh at the self’s expense. This is evidence of being in Observer Mode, paying far less heed to the mind’s input on everything; yes, everything.
We’re all taught to be selfless while we’re still very much identified with the ego-mind, the lesser self, if you will. We aren’t taught that, even if we’re successful, it’s all an act, not anything real & deep. In other words, we’re taught to pretend to be selfless while very much enmeshed in the self.
One day we’ll also be able to laugh at that. 😆
Things are much different from a Heart perspective. The main difference? The lesser self immediately weakens & begins to dissolve as we find our way into Heart, into Spirit, into soul, our inner Being. We move from being entirely body-mind identified to seeing that loosen its grasp, then actually fade away.
Our mind can’t grasp this, so it’s best to not try, being a pointless effort. That’s okay, though, since Heart Knows & we’re connecting with That. This is a truly different realm from anything accessible to the ego-mind. None of our beliefs make the cut, none are able to cross over into Heart (where beliefs don’t exist).
Though it seems backward to the mind, our life gets ceaselessly better along this path. (It’s not really a “path,” being closer to a destination, but at the start it’s viewed as a path.) Many of the weights & burdens under which we’ve operated throughout life somehow vanish when we’re not looking, we know not why or how.
At the start, when we hear things like, “We’re the only one in our way,” they don’t really make sense. Yup, you guessed (or Knew) it — we’re still trapped too much in the mind.
Mind’s nowhere is Heart’s NowHere.
At first, it’s mostly a journey of letting things go, a sort of surrender to Life. We find ourselves stuffed full of so many things that turn out to be nonsensical — to Heart — that it’s fairly easy to release them, though it generally takes multiple experiences.
The beauty is how, throughout all of the surrendering of whatever-it-is, be it things or (more commonly,) ideas & beliefs, our internal clarity increases. At some point, we begin to notice that we’re seeing much that used to go unnoticed. It’s great in its way, but also challenging since what we’re seeing is often quite dark or negative.
Awakening is not all roses🌹 & rainbows, 🌈 to be sure.
We’ve long had the truly dark side of life largely hidden from us, so we want someone or something to blame, to excoriate. We want to bring about suitable change. Yup, we’re still mind-centric, so we spin our wheels uselessly in that mode — until we don’t. Impossible to say when that will be since we’re all unique.
Only the stubborn truly awaken — or — Only the truly stubborn awaken. 😆
We have to be solidly determined to keep choosing Heart’s perspective over the mental view. While everything is ultimately One, we wouldn’t know it while locked into this Heart-head dichotomy. They’re two truly, distinctly different experiences of Life.
The time of letting go lasts as long as it lasts.
Since everything is accelerating, these days, yours will likely be shorter than the 2 or 3 years mine took to become more Heart-identified than not, before Heart’s became my dominant perspective.
This is not a time to be seeking a dominant worldview to replace the one you had. Those are mind things, do you see? It is what it is — all of it — & our opinions about it aren’t that important. We’re just learning to be & let be during this phase. It feels really strange.
We don’t know much of anything, & this part of the trek proves it to us as we remain open. 😆
This can even be eye-of-the-needle time, as some don’t make it through, being unable to sufficiently divest themselves of their old attitudes & beliefs. The extent to which we cling to believing we are right about this-or-that is both the sign that we haven’t yet passed through the needle’s eye & the measure of our mental fixation.
During this time we’ll have a few experiences of actual Clarity, that gift of Heart. It’s the ability to not just see something, but to see right through it. We’ll just Know, though we won’t be able to explain it. At some point, we learn it’s not wise to even try. Others will get there when they do, & if they’re not there, already, they’re not hearing us because they can’t.
One thing that some use as an excuse to avoid going through the needle’s eye — which strips us of everything extraneous — is the relationships we stand to lose. Hey, it’s serious stuff; I get that.
Still, as we awaken, it’s not likely that our circle of friends & dear ones are all coming along.
We first notice this when communicating becomes more challenging. We find ourselves unable to make certain points about things that seem so very clear to us. There’s pain involved that’s unavoidable. Only later will we be able to look back & see how it was the ego-mind suffering that pain, not our real Self; but for now, it just sucks. 😢
We choose. The biggest gain of this trek is our independence, our union/reunion with our Source-in-form core. That One simply doesn’t suffer. It has compassion & innerstanding, but never suffering or pain. These are gifts of our 3D adventure designed to help us expand & endlessly mature. [1]
At some point, we realize we’re no longer so affected, so bothered by the many things that used to give us pause. Our load is lighter, somehow, & it’s not likely we noticed it happening along the way.
These are the priceless fruits of awakening.
Early on, we tend to do the Either-Or dance, seeing things that way, but not so much, now. Source contains both & so do we. We now see our goal less as becoming only Light, more as coming into a Divine Balance in the midst of it all. Just as our skin is required to contain our body as one, rather than parts all over the floor, so do we find our spiritual skin — just words, so listen from Heart.
This firmness (or spiritual “container”) is to our advantage. It seems to be a Law of Nature that, when the dark-leaning ones can no longer get to you directly, they use those close to you, be they friends, pets, employers...
Eventually, there are those with whom we no longer associate, or not at all so closely as before.
It’s always possible to lose spiritual ground, to make choices that lead in other directions. Free will enables that, so it’s not wrong or bad. We learn to trust Heart. Besides, our mind won’t be able to evaluate whatever choices Heart has us making, whatever path they seem to place us on.
Whatever you do, don’t fall into any sort of self-condemnation. When it rears its ugly head, just observe, just watch. If you’re seeing it, that’s a good indication it’s on its way out since seeing through something is what follows seeing it.
The first one to fall in Love with is the self/Self, friends — no one & nothing external, just you. It’s a self-teaching experience that bears the deLightFull fruit of being hugely better enabled to Love those seeming “others” in our life.
We don’t at first know those “others” as aspects of our very Self.
The Love of Heart bears no resemblance to human love, be it of spouse, child, or pet. I won’t even try to put those differences into words since they’re best innerstood via direct experience. It takes “selfless” to a whole new level, all the while living in that amazing Self-Love.
If we don’t have it — if we don’t first Love the self/Self — we don’t have it to give to anyone or anything else. When we do have it, it seems we’ve lost the “I” in all of that, that it’s not an “I” loving a “you,” at all.
It’s Source both giving & receiving Love, all the while Being Love in the divine Balance & flow of the yin-yang. ☯️
Namaste
~♥~
1:02 p.m., Thursday, 2019/05/09 — Mayan day 7 Dog / Oc
[1] The Little Soul parable does a great job of illustrating the usefulness of darkness & negativity, as well as how to best navigate them.
